Happiness is the World

June 6, 2016

a poem by Jovie Ruf   © June 6, 2016




Happiness is the world.



We should all be happy.

Happiness is the world.



Happiness is the world.

Happiness is the world.

Happiness is the world.



Happiness is the world.



Happiness is the world.

Happiness is the world.




*pic May 2013;  she picked this one because “it looks like I’m on top of the world”


oh this girl

January 17, 2015

tonight before bed, jovie was watching Barbie & the Secret Door.  in the show, there’s a bratty girl singing a funny but bratty song. (of course it’s The Mr.’s favorite!)  as soon as it was done, jovie cracked me up for a full minute.  completely unexpectedly as soon as it was over, she gave a great rendition of the “mwahh haaah aaahh”  and i couldn’t stop laughing!


one day, we got a sitter and jovie was very excited about this and went outside to wait for her.  The Mr. went outside to hang out with her but was immediately sent away.  “Go back inside, Dad. I’ve got to get back to my business of being bored.”


at christmas we were watching Rudolph for the first time this season;  jovie was getting nervous at everybody’s attitudes and behaviors. i said, remember- there are a lot of mean people in this. and she immediately said “except Abominable… he’s nice”


back in summer, jovie was telling me about some bug bites that The Mr. took care of and said “i can’t show you one of them because it’s deleted”


the other day i was joking around a lot.  (i’ve learned from The Mr. apparently) i can’t even remember what it was i said, but she answered back:  “mom? are you truthing??”


one day in the fall, i put jovie to bed, and when i turned out the light and was closing the door, she asked if i could make nutella pancakes.  i told her i was actually hoping to (reading my mind again!) i then saw her in the dark raise her hand and whisper “SCORE!”

she may look like me, but she makes me laugh like The Mr. does.


December 13, 2014

yes i know.

The Mr. is even wondering when this blog will get updated.  Maybe it’s the best way he has of finding out what goes on without him here.  Luckily he’s been around this week, and the year is coming to a (quick) close.  Let all the fun end-of-year events continue….

Here’s what’s been going on as of late:

we finally had a chance to have a firepit

we finally had a chance to have a firepit



shortly after that picture, she woke up confused and said “it feels like i just woke up!?!”

we got super dirty at the park

we got super dirty at the park

we got super silly at the park

we got super silly at the park

thanksgiving snacks were had

thanksgiving snacks were had

a great thanksgiving was had

a great thanksgiving was had

we were a gingerbread for the christmas recital

we were a gingerbread for the christmas recital

we had fun decorating for christmas

we had fun decorating for christmas



September 9, 2014

so i’ve mentioned before how uncanny jovie has been.  people who know us in person knows about the time she read my mind and asked “mommy, is gum healthy?” at the moment i thought about gum-  even though we don’t chew it in our house; and at that time she had never had a piece herself….

but a couple of weeks ago she did it again.  it prompted me to ask if it’s ESP if my mind is blank.

to be fair- i don’t believe in ghosts or ESP or anything like that.  however, i am documenting a lot of stuff jovie has done through the years just in case she gets her own TV show in the future.

so for who knows what reason she asked me about MY grandparents.  she asked what they were called, and i told her i had a Gramma Gursey, a Nana, and 2 Papas.  I explained that i never knew either of the grandfathers.  and for some reason that wasn’t what she had in mind.  she wanted to know their real names.  so i ran down the list.  i said:   Ida, Catherine, Julius and…….   ummmmm    hmmmmm  uh oh how do i not remember my grandfather’s name?  wow.  ……… ummmmmmm

just as i was about to pick up the phone to text a sis, jovie said “Charlie??”

at that exact moment i remembered his name was Charles.  and i freaked out a little.



June 6, 2013

we had such a great (most of the) week in FL visiting my 2 sisters and their families.  we actually drove down there last year at the end of june to surprise Barbara for her birthday (and what a FUN surprise that was!) and that trip went really well.

this year we knew we wanted to get jovie on a plane for her first time; and south florida is a great way to start.  it was less than 2 hours to fly, and jovie is so good with traveling now (still in amazement, by the way).  she was so excited about this trip and we booked it (and have been talking about it) since late January!

all set!

all set!

the pilot actually came on and gave both Jovie & Flopsy wings.  i’ve never seen that before.  (of course, the novelty wore off about 35 seconds later; and they are now clipped on her suitcase).

we got there last sunday and Aunt Barb was kind enough and thoughtful enough to make us all dinner so we could just get settled in our (awesome) rental house.  we had a house full of kids and adults and enjoyed it greatly.

jovie, tyler & hogan

jovie, tyler & hogan (as taken from the top deck)

camryn & jovie

camryn & jovie

delaney’s not pictured because she wasn’t in the water.  jovie was enamored with the big girls.  and hogan was enamored with jovie.  everyone got along and had a good time to start!

monday morning, we woke up and i made breakfast for us to eat while looking at this from the kitchen:

i think that's Estero Bay

i think that’s Estero Bay

after breakfast, we went on the deck (scooted to the right of this picture about 2 feet) and had our coffee:

look over the roof and through the trees... there's the bay again

look over the roof and through the trees… there’s the bay again

after lunch, all the gang came over again so we could hang out and grill out for memorial day.  more swimming was to be had

behind jovie is the canal.  seriously such a great house

behind jovie is the canal. seriously such a great house

just as we were thinking of going to the beach before dinner, a nice storm rolled through which was perfect to view on the lanai (and then in the spacious living room when the rain beat down).  so we grilled and headed to the beach that evening for sunset fun.  we got on the beach and hogan and camryn promptly discovered “creatures” which were alive and well and moving.  the kids made a creature pile.  (i was concerned some of these poor guys were now lost from whatever their mission in life is since they were picked up and moved to the sand for our enjoyment).

jovie was less of a fan of the creatures.  i was a big fan of the sunset (even though the west coast setting was blocked by the cloudy sky)







jovie was thrilled to have tyler and camryn spend the night.  nevermind that she was also awake until 9pm (unheard of around these parts!)  it was absolutely the quietest spend the night anything in the world.  granted the 2 girls had a different room than jovie, but even the next day, jovie just sat enamored and slack-jawed at them; and the girls were just awfully quiet.  we all played games together, and still no words were uttered except for the ones that had to be said (like “uno”)…  still, jovie loved it.


then we headed to LJ’s house and played at their big pool again.  this place was a hit last year!  i wanted to be sure to have some time there again.  too bad it rained us out; but there was still time for some fun.



0060and then aunt LJ & uncle Phil made us delicious snacks & supper.  afterwards, i was fortunate enough to hear Delaney sing.  (incredible, y’all!  amazing!!)

Wednesday we had a day to ourselves and went to Sanibel Island.  we took a boat/nature tour because i was hoping to see dolphins; and jovie’s never been on a boat.  it was good.  Sanibel’s cute and all, but hardly worth the same toll as it costs to come to San Fran over the Golden Gate bridge.  jovie enjoyed being on the boat; and she did GREAT at helping out at the touch tank.  she was very brave to go around to everyone and shake an egg-sac-thing for everyone to hear the jingle.  and THEN the captain had her stick her hand in the tank and let a horseshoe crab crawl up her arm.   WOW.

that guy; right in the corner!

that guy; right in the corner!

0081and whaddya know? we DID get to see one dolphin:

couldn't get a pic of him flipping; looks like a shark from here

couldn’t get a pic of him flipping; looks like a shark from here

after lunch on Sanibel, we drove to the lighthouse and got rained out before we could explore anything at all.  so we headed back “home” to see if the rain was holding off.  it was enough that we could enjoy some time at the beach for playtime this time.  jovie loved every second of it!



after we got cleaned up, we headed to dinner and then to Kilwin‘s for dessert where jovie uttered the best quote of her life…  after i had tried to order a small (so sad- only one yummy size), jovie saw my large waffle cone and immediately said “wooooahhhhhhhh. do you need someone to share that??”

this was of course after we bought her her own fudge!                          the guys behind the counter cracked up and so did we.

thursday we spent the day alone again and took advantage of a beach day.  again, she was thrilled.


afterwards we headed to dinner with LJ, Barb & the crew to say our goodbyes.  and then friday we left and got home just in time for us to rest and then do this:

0122she had her recital and we missed rehearsal.  but it was all fine.  she had fun up there on stage and did decently.  what a busy busy week we  had last week!

this week has not slowed down either… swim lessons and play time with friends.

what a great summer it’s been so far!


completely logical

August 16, 2012

this is actual conversation from yesterday on our way to dance class (woohoo!!)

since dance is in the same complex as The American Cancer Society, when we drove by it it, i told her:

  • that’s where i used to work…..  before you were born.
  • when?  was i 2 months old?
  • no… it was before you were born.
  • was i one month old??
  • no.  actually, you were still in my belly.     <oh god…  woops………..shudder………..waiting….>
  • <confused silence.  for about 3 point 2 seconds>
  • Mommy??—  did you try to eat me?!?!

so very glad we were already at dance class.

*i am amazed at how even though she is extremely observant,  and somewhat fearful of things that aren’t her usual, she has never once asked anything about any of our 3 friends who have been pregnant and then had their babies.  (one friend has had 2 in jovie’s lifetime!)  large tummies?  no problem!   a baby suddenly appears at your house?  super cool!

she certainly knows her boundaries.

*so glad that, so far, i have been able to dodge the questions of her existence.

there’s no pleasing her

June 13, 2012

in keeping up with more conversations of depth….

today, we were listening to some music on itunes.  (Elizabeth Mitchell, You are My Little Bird) and in one song, she says “soul”.  so jovie asked me what soul means.

my reply: “uuuhhhhhhh, well….. um,….. it’s who you are??…  it’s your complete self?”

her response, (please envision with a confused look on her face):  “that sounds….. … boring.”